Whenever you offer engage in any kind of authentic conversation or especially if you offer to do healing work for someone, you open yourself to that other person’s energy field. You can be affected by this on many levels: physical, emotional, mental, psychic/spiritual, consciously and unconsciously. Whether you attribute this to thoughts, feelings and memories that were provoked within you during your encounter, or to a psychic transference of energy from the other person to you, there can be pronounced after-effects. If you have not properly filtered psychic energy you may find yourself feeling irritable, anxious, depressed, morose, drained, and/or preoccupied with the other person’s situation or even about similar details from your own life. Therefore, it is wise to apply some psychic self-defense techniques to your Spiritual Practice. Psychic self-defense involves three basic steps: first, you clear and purify yourself of negativity and distractions; second, you connect and surround yourself with good & clean energy; and third, you ground and discharge any extra energy you might have taken in. Below are some techniques for personal psychic protection.
In my opinion it is especially crucial to remain “grounded”. Being grounded has to do with your connection to the Earth, and your ability to release any energy that builds up within you. Just like electrical appliances need a complete circuit to function, humans need to establish and sustain an unbroken connection between their body and the earth to work most effectively. To establish this connection relax and imagine that the energy of the earth is rising up through your body and reaching beyond you to the sky, then imagine that the energy of the sky is showering down through you back to the earth. Imagine that this is a complete circuit of energy, with energy rising through you from the earth up to the sky and then back down through you to the earth. As you become more and more filled with this energy, visualize a ball of light all around you. Breathe in the energy of the earth & sky to fortify the life force (aka aura) that surrounds you which serves as a filter and a shield.
Whenever you feel intense emotions or energy during or even after an encounter with someone it is important to keep it flowing.
There are three ways you might approach this:
Become more aware of your breath, each time you inhale, imagine you are breathing in the serenity and Divine connection you need to be present for the highest and greatest good. Then as you exhale imagine you are releasing all negativity with your breath and imagine that as soon as it moves from your body it is neutralized into calmness which dissipates gently into the air.
Reinforce awareness that a cocoon of light encompasses and protects you. Then imagine that this ball of light is like a smooth surface that deflects energy and lets it flow around you with ease.
Increase your awareness of the circuit of connection you have developed with the Earth & Sky. As energy moves through you from the Sky back down to the Earth, imagine that any extra energy you are picking up is draining down through your body, out of your feet and down to the heart of the Earth. By maintaining awareness of your connection to this complete circuit, you can replenish any negative energy you release with new energy.
Using these techniques preemptively can really help to keep you from picking excess energy and emotions from others. It is much easier to put the gloves on before you make a connection than to wash your hands as effectively afterwards.
If I do say so myself this is perhaps the very best Gluten Free, Grain Free and White Sugar Free cake/bread I have EVER created! OMG not only is it delicious it is really easy to prepare too!
Preheat oven to 350° (if you have a convection oven use convection setting)
in food processor or stand mixer blend
16-18 oz almond butter (I had a little extra from an old jar)
1/3 c maple syrup (or honey or other preferred liquid sweetener)
2 droppers of sweet leaf liquid stevia (or an extra 1/4 c of honey or maple syrup)
1 T vanilla extract
1 medium/large apple cored and chopped
2 T ghee (or butter)
1 T coconut oil (or just 3 T of your preferred fat)
1/2 t sea salt
1 t baking soda
1 T cinnamon
1 t clove
1 whole nutmeg freshly grated (or 1 t nutmeg ground)
Pour batter into a greased baking pan (either pyrex rectangle/square or round springform)
Optional: garnish with almonds or other nut of your choice
Bake for 25 minutes and then check for doneness with toothpick (time will vary depending on your oven, with mine it usually takes 45+ minutes)
When toothpick comes out clean and top is golden remove from oven and let cool on rack and after it has cooled either cut into squares or remove from spring form pan.
Lately the message I keep getting from many different sources is the necessity for stillness to allow true guidance and inspiration to come through. It may seem contrary that I suggest stillness on this nearly full Moon May Eve since Beltane is a holiday of the budding and blossoming of the land again. Yet here in colder climates it is also the time for planting seeds. Before they sprout, seeds are best met with stillness. As we approach this next full moon in Scorpio on Sunday May 3, we have an opportunity to go within ourselves to explore our deeper desires. The Scorpio Moon lends intensity, emotional depth and passion for you to discover and affirm your dreams.
I present the following ceremony as a way to clear space, to name and to claim a wish for the coming season. I will recommend that you go for a viable goal, if you are a 5’1″ woman like me, wishing that you could be a member of the NBA is probably not going to yield particularly effective results, nor will wishing that you are suddenly a millionaire or married to your celebrity heart-throb.
Sustainable change is almost always incremental and it is by taking one step after another that we eventually reach a life far beyond our wildest dreams. This said, even one adjustment can be very significant and bring remarkable benefits. For example back in May 2003 I decided to stop eating white sugar (except in the form of small amounts of very dark organic chocolate). At the time it felt like a MASSIVE undertaking and definitely did not remotely feel like a small step. After I overcame the first few weeks of withdrawal and yeast die-off symptoms, surrendering sugar alleviated a great deal of anxiety, depression, food cravings, constant hunger, weight and inflammation in my body. In hindsight I know that this was the first of many steps I needed to take to find greater health and ease in my life but at the time it felt monumental. If I had not been willing to take that step, I know I would be no where near where I am today.
Planting a seed can be a metaphor for what we want to create. First the ground needs to be cleared of debris and weeds that would choke the tender new sprouts and stop them from reaching maturity. Then the seeds themselves need to be culled and only the most viable and healthy ones should be planted with enough spacing to flourish. Seeds must then be watered and nourished and after we wait for germination and signs of life reaching for the sun.
To benefit from the Scorpio energy plan to do this between May 2, 9:49 PM Eastern Time and May 5, 7:14 AM. The closest you can be to the actual full moon on Sunday May 3 at 11:43PM the better. This ritual will work best at night as there is an element of water scrying. Right before the full moon is best when you want to make wishes and build energy for new possibilities, after the full moon is better for releasing stuck patterns and letting go of the stuff that is holding you back. This ceremony offers a bit of both of these.
For this full moon ceremony you will need:
- A big bowl of water
- A packet of seeds
- A planter filled with good potting soil (or a place outdoors where you can plant some seeds)
- Favorite writing implement
- This worksheet (password protected, you can get it when you sign up for my mailing list )
- 2 sturdy note cards/recipe cards about 4″x6″ and colored markers.
Take a few moments to ground and center. If possible place your bowl of water where the reflection of the moon can shine directly into the water. (If this is not possible set up so that you can see the moon from a window, or if it is warm enough go outside! Obviously if the sky is cloudy or you can not see the moon, this ritual will still work just as well, you can simply use the bowl of water for gazing even if the moon’s reflection is not there. Set up all the things you will need before you and let yourself get into a comfortable position.
Think of this scorpio moon and draw the power and energy down to you with each breath. Breathe in the depth of emotion and passion that Scorpio contains. Welcome your connection to the Divine with whatever name or form works best for you. When you are feeling filled with the energy and intensity of this May Moon. Gaze into the bowl of water and let your mind become as still as possible. Focus on the moon’s reflection and one topic at a time read and consider your response to each question. Return to the moon’s reflection between each answer and allow guidance to come to you.
From the worksheet you should be able to distill two things: What step you can take to create space for the seeds of your wish AND What the outcome of your desire will be.
Now take your notecards and on one write what you commit to change or release. Make it a statement of action such as: “As of tonight I surrender all white sugar. I will seek support when I need it.” On the other write the goal of your wish. In my experience it is best when you write it as an affirmation of what you welcome or invite as opposed to making a statement where your mind can find contradiction. So an example might be: “I am ready to welcome a life ofgreater ease and physical fitness, I will take the actions to achieve this.”
After you have written your two statements on your cards put them in front of you and grab your seeds. Gaze at the reflected moon as you hold them in your hand. Imagine what your goal will look like when it is accomplished. Visualize this as clearly as you can. It often helps to speak out loud and narrate exactly what you wish to create. Tell the seeds your goals and dreams and tell your seeds what actions you will take to make this wish a reality. Take your time to be as crystal clear as you can be. Then take in a deep breath and hold it as you hold and firm up your wish, just before you can hold your breath no longer blow your breath and your intentions and desires over the seeds in your hands. Grab your pot filled with soil and plant a few of your seeds declaring what they represent. Cover the seeds with a light layer of soil (depth as the seed packet suggests) and then pour some of your moon water over the newly planted soil. Take the rest of this water and pour it into a glass and drink it using this to fortify your wish and your motivation to manifest it through your actions. Over the next few days or weeks as you wait for your seeds to sprout take time for moments of stillness and inspiration. Often listening quietly is the most effective way to realize what your best next step will be.
•Trigger Warning: story about death and dying.•
“For what is it to die but to stand naked in the wind and to melt into the sun?
And what is it to cease breathing but to free the breath from its restless tides, that it may rise and expand and seek God unencumbered?
Only when you drink from the river of silence shall you indeed sing.
And when you have reached the mountaintop,then you shall begin to climb.
And when the earth shal claim your limbs,then shall you truly dance.”
3 months ago our pug Baba developed type 1 diabetes. We had to take him off his anti-inflammatory steroids that had been keeping his spinal stenosis at bay, without it he rapidly lost mobility from the waist down. Within days he was our little paraplegic pug. Yet even so, he was still eager to wake up every day, interested in eating anything we’d offer him (except cottage cheese) and when we’d check in with him to let him know if he wanted to go we were okay with that, but the answer we kept getting rather clearly was “I’m not dead yet”. Last Sunday April 19th was a lovely day, we walked around the yard and enjoyed the newly blooming crocuses, got stuff done and then enjoyed dinner and Sunday evening programs with Baba snuggled in happily against my left thigh as usual. I carried him up to bed and settled him in on his blankets. Everything was ordinary and like any other Sunday night with our family.
At 7:30 I was awakened by Baba making some sounds of distress. Whether this was him actually crying out to me or some kind of telepathy I will never really know. Ordinarily I am SOUND asleep at 7:30 but I was awake. I checked on him and could tell he was not quite right, he was flopped on his side and when I tried to right him on his belly he couldn’t hold the position. I quickly took a moment to use the bathroom and came back and picked him up. At that moment I clearly got a message in my mind from him: “It’s time, I’m dying, I am ready now.”
We had been anticipating that this day would come, but we had no inclination that it would be that day. Death is like that. It is never exactly like you imagine it will be and rarely if ever is the date marked on the calendar so you know when to prepare for it. If there is anything that death has taught me is that it is better to treat every single day like it could be the last and make sure that each encounter you have with every one dear will suffice if it ends up being the final one.
We’ve lost two other pugs over the years as well as our cat Rumi and as a result of these emotionally intense experiences I have come to recognize what it looks and feels like when your beloved companion is dying. I am so grateful I knew it immediatedly this time. I had a conversation earlier today and I observed that when it comes to being around Death, resistance is futile, we can either accept what is happening and allow the process to unfold using all of our energy and focus on what needs to be done to facilitate the easiest passing for our dear ones, or we can fight it and miss the opportunity to experience the depth of those last precious moments and behold the sacredness of crossing over.
As I held Baba I felt was the deep connection between us, I sang Calling All Angels to him and he made sweet, sighs of relief as I rocked and cradled his little body while we waited for my husband to get dressed and ready. As soon as I considered a question, I KNEW the answer as if he was communicating directly with me about exactly what he wanted and needed. It took five minutes to run a comb through my hair and throw on my clothes. We called the vet and told them we were coming in shortly and as miracles are known to happen at the most opportune moments, we got a call that Baba’s favorite veterinarian Dr Carol had a cancelation and we could bring him in that morning. I brought Baba outside and tried to help him to take one last pee, but the moment I tried to put him down his heart started to pound wildly with fear and he let me know he did not want to leave my arms even for a second. So I held him as my husband, our other pug Bob, Baba and I went for one last walk around the yard. We stopped in the little grove of trees where all of our pets are buried and we could all see exactly where Baba would be laid to rest a few hours later.
The four of us got in the car and Baba experienced his last ride in a car alive in his little pug body. Baba’s vet was ready for us as soon as we arrived and she confirmed what I intuitively knew, he had crossed the point of no return. It was likely he had had a stroke shortly before and it was indeed time to let go. He had lively joyfully and filled with love every single moment of his life and thankfully went from fine to gone in less than 2 hours.
It was such a gift to hold him as he died. I was so connected with him through the whole process that I could feel how he was feeling, so when Dr Carol gave him the first sedative cocktail I could feel the waves of relief flooding his little body and his deepening degrees of letting go. His breath relaxed from labored to calmer and he would periodically release the sweetest sighs of relief. When it was time for the second injection which stops the heart, he was ready. I held his body against my heart. I closed my eyes and tuned into Baba’s soul. In my experience dying is both very subtle and very profound at the same time. One one hand it is as if nothing happens and then on the other it is as if EVERYTHING is happening. What I experienced was a warm seeping of his glorious war ruby soul spread through me as he passed out of his own body. For the last few months I have been noting that it has felt like every time Baba would lie against my chest as I held him in my arms it was as if he was a Love Battery that was charging up to get ready for his passing. I imagined that if any pet of mine was going to stay and be my little ghost dog, it would be him. At this point it feels as if he has melted into everything. He has become part of me, part of our home, part of the universe. Free of his body there is now enough space to contain his infinite love.
Bringing him home we laid him on the living room floor so everyone could sniff and say goodbye to him. We have always done this whenever a pet dies in our household. Subsequently we have never had pets looking for the deceased one with confusion. They still grieve, and they still miss their friend, but they do not call or search the way I have heard some animals do when a pet just leaves and never comes back.
My husband, Bob and I went out to our pet cemetery with our garden tools and proceeded to dig a big hole. Like everything else with Baba’s death, while it certainly took effort, it was not a struggle. The ground broke willingly and even once we hit clay it still yielded to our shovels. Perhaps the most amazing thing was that as we dug a Red Tail Hawk circled directly over us calling to us for nearly the entire time it took us to dig the hole. Rain was expected, it was as if the Hawk was warding off the rain until we could finish. Once Baba’s grave was adequately dug, we went to get him and the things we would bury with him. Bob joined us and sat beside us as we gently lowered Baba with his towel shroud into his womb of earth. Paulo Santo & Sweetgrass were burned and smoke was offered. Offerings of stones, crystal, and personal objects were given to keep him company and rose petals were scattered. For a while the hawk had flown further away, but as soon as we started to lay Baba to rest the hawk came back and called to us as we made offerings, prayers and expressions of our gratitude. After replacing the layers of dirt over our dear boy stones were placed as a cairn to secure his grave with a buddha in the center. At the moment all garden tools were put away the first drops of rain began to fall and it continued to rain steadily for the rest of the day and night.
While I am sad, I am also deeply appreciative and grateful for the gift of such a peaceful and beautiful passing. I am grateful that he lived 1 week beyond his 14th birthday. I am grateful that the snow has finally melted and the ground was clear. I am grateful that the soil was moist and yielding. I am grateful that our vet had a last minute cancelation and could see us exactly when we needed to see her and that she could also say goodbye to him. I am grateful that he did not suffer and that we were both home to be present for these final moments. I am grateful that he woke me and I did not just roll over and go back to sleep. I am grateful to have experienced such profound love and devotion and to have known this dear dear wee angel.
Happy New Moon in Aries! Right before a new moon is the perfect time for deep purification and banishing negative energy, and then once the moon is new and starts to wax towards the full moon again, it is ideal for new beginnings and blessings for the next 2 weeks.
So hopefully you found some time to declutter and clear out some personal space before you started binge watching Game of Thrones to get ready for the launch of the new season last Sunday evening. IMHO there is a fine line between taking time for ourselves and procrastination. Sometimes I believe the best thing you can do in life is just say F-It and focus on something you simply want to do for fun. I think it fundamentally all comes down to the balance between your comfort and discomfort. When something is persistently nagging at you every time you think about doing it, there comes a point when you just got to put on your galoshes and wade into the project and git-er-done. If procrastination is keeping you from getting off your butt and doing it, I suggest a few rounds of tapping to voice your resistance and define the positive outcome you want to achieve as this will most likely give you the jumpstart you need.
OKAY so enough about procrastination! Let’s imagine that you have taken inventory of your space and you have removed the objects which are no longer serving you. You can probably already feel a difference in your space. However often there can be some lingering congested energy from accumulated emotions and thoughts along with the occasional spirit or ghost (please note: dealing with the unquiet dead is really a different subject than this which is worthy of its own series of posts).
Spiritual Cleaning of a Space has 4 components.
- Declutter & Eliminate objects that you have negative associations with.
- Tidy and physically clean your space.
- Break up and clear congested energy in your space
- Bless and recharge your space with positive intention & energy
The rest of this post is about #3 (I will be writing about #4 in the next installment about blessing your space)
There are a number of approaches for decongesting a space that is thick with unpleasant energy. You can use Sound. You can use Scent & Smoke. You can use Movement & Air Flow. You can use water. And you can reinforce the process with intention and visualization. In general it is considered most effective to move counterclockwise as this is considered the direction of unwinding whereas clockwise is associated with winding up and building up energy.
With sound it can be as simple as moving through your space and clapping firmly with intent to break up energy. Focus especially on corners and other tight areas where energy tends to accumulate. Toning with your voice can amplify your intent or actually speak aloud to the space about what you are ousting and tell it to leave. When I really need some extra oomph I like to chant a traditional Welsh banishing incantation which works especially well steadily repeated as you move counter clockwise.
To bane, to bane,
Thrice take ye back from whence ye came!
(this can be found in The Word: Welsh Witchcraft, the Grail of Immortality and the Sacred Keys By Camelot Press)
You can also use a rattle which is especially good for shaking loose stickier energy. It could be a special rattle or in a pinch you can grab a plastic aspirin bottle and use that. I am personally quite partial to using bells as they cut through the air and all the energy in a room and restructure it with the strong vibration bells create. Gongs work in a similar way to bells by shifting the vibration through the entire space but I prefer bells because you can easily ring them through-out your space and get into the tighter areas where energy might feel especially thick or icky. Singing bowls can be used too, however I find the logistics of singing bowls to make it a bit harder to navigate while holding, so I tend to use singing bowls for a final polish after the space has been cleared to soothe and sweeten the vibration in the room.
Scent generally involves the burning of herbs, resins or fragrant wood. Think of it as a spiritual disinfectant and repellent. Sagebrush and Paulo Santo Wood are two of the most popular ones but anything (natural and nontoxic) you are drawn to use to create some smoke that you can wave around your whole space is fine. Generally cleansing scents are more savory or sharp whereas sweet fragrant scents are more often used for blessings, offerings & meditation.
I do have one caution: DO NOT try to burn any kind of pepper. Let’s just say I learned this the hard way in my early 20’s when I was experimenting with burning incense on charcoals and I raided my spice cabinet. When I tried burning some cayenne I managed to fumigate my kitchen so intensely that my three cats all ran for the door and I heaved my watering eyes and gasping lungs out on to the fire escape to catch my breath.
Movement can involve any number of objects like: feathers, fans, wings, a broom or even your hands. Fanning the air with feathers, a fan or a cured bird wing (or even a fake wing) and directing the energy counterclockwise is one approach. Using a broom and sweeping with the intent that you are collecting energy and moving it out can be quite effective. If you don’t have any tools at your disposal (though hopefully you have some kind of broom) you can simply use your bare hands you can comb or rake the air and move through any congestion. If you have ever used breath and intention for holding yoga posture and imagined that you are either sending or receiving energy through your hands clearing energy in a room has a similar approach. In my experience most kids under 10 immediately grasp this concept, so if you have littles in your world you can enlist their help to clear your space even more effectively. If this seems like an odd way to clear space, if you are game, you might pretend it makes sense or if it really feels to weird to you use one of the other methods that feels more comfortable for you.
One basic way to use water for cleansing is to create a wash which involves taking a bucket of water and adding a pinch or two of sea salt for purification, a blend of essential oils or an herbal infusion to instill particular qualities and optional natural soap. Customarily this is used with a mop or a good handful of rags and you basically mop around your space with the floorwash holding the intention that this shall act as a spiritual/energetic disinfectant and cootie repellant.
Here’s a simple floorwash recipe.
- in a 2 or 3 gallon bucket of clean warm water add
- 1tsp celtic sea salt
- 5 drops rosemary oil (protection & warding)
- 10 drops clove bud oil (purify & disinfect)
- 15 drops lavender oil (calming & cleansing)
- 20 drops lemon oil (decongest and lighten the energy)
- 2 T unscented Castile soap (optional)
Floor wash infusion
in a HUGE stock pot bring a few gallons of water to a boil. Turn off and add a handful of sage leaves, a big bunch of fresh thyme and a big bunch of rosemary or 2T each of the dried herbs. Lemon grass or lemon verbena, lavender, mint and/or wormwood herb are additional possibilities. Let the infusion steep and and cool . down and then when the water is lukewarm strain off the herbs and add the infusion to your wash bucket.
A less labor intensive use of water is to Asperge the room with water. This involves a bowl of fresh water, a pinch of sea salt and optional essential oils. It is customary to use a branch of evergreen or a bunch of herb sprigs like rosemary or thyme and to dip the greens into the water and then cast the water around the space to be purifed. In my opinion though this method definitely helps to cleanse a space, it is not the most effective for breaking up a lot of negative energy alone it is better used in conjunction with another method as well. However asperging is quite good for blessing a space after it has already been cleared.
Perhaps even more crucial than the method you decide to use to spiritually cleanse your space, is your mindset, your intention and how you visualize what you are doing as you move through the space. If visualization is a new concept for you then use your imagination to first “see” the negative/icky energy and where it is stuck in your space, and then imagine it breaking up, and moving away. As I mentioned it is best to move counter clockwise through your space. As you gather the energy visualize that you are move it around the room as if it was debris you were sweeping away with a broom if there is a door to the outdoors then it is best to actually sweep or fan it right out the door and away from your entry way, if sending it outside through a door is not possible then open a window and send it out that way. Hopefully this post makes sense to you and is easy to follow. Fundamentally there is no wrong way to do this. Your intention is the most important part of all. You can use one method or you can use multiple approaches. In my experience it is especially effective to use a few techniques so you involve multiple senses as a process that targets different levels of awareness is more deeply integrated and anchored. Follow your gut, follow your imagination and most of all HAVE FUN! Stay tuned for my next installment where I will cover blessing your now clear space.
The full moon in Libra occurred on Saturday April 4 2015 at 8:06AM Eastern Time along with the start of Passover and Easter this weekend. We are simultaneously experiencing a Lunar Eclipse when the earth obstructs the sun from shining directly upon the moon. SO how can we use this particular celestial event to better achieve our hopes and dreams?
From a symbolic standpoint, the Sun represents the rational mind and our expressive, active dynamic role in the world, whereas the Moon represents our emotions, the subconscious, dreams, the intuitive and instinctual mind. The earth represents the self, matter and how we relate and interact with the world. A lunar eclipse temporarily alters how we can perceive these three aspects, allowing us to examine facets of our lives in a unique way, so we may turn inward to access our hidden motivations, patterns and wishes.
Because the moon is in Libra we can explore the ways we are living in harmony and equilibrium but also discover what may be contributing to any current patterns of imbalance. Ordinarily the Sun shines it’s influence upon the Moon, but as the Eclipse brings a brief segregation between the Sun and Moon, we can access the attributes of the Moon without the interference of the more dominant solar energy. Therefore is easier to dig into our subconscious thoughts and feelings to expose and then address and shift buried issues more efficiently than during ordinary planetary alignments. During the three day window around the full moon when the moon is in Libra from 3:08AM Friday and 3:04PM Sunday Eastern Time it is ideal to set aside a period of time about 20 minutes to an hour depending on how deeply you want to delve. There is great power in expressing your authentic feelings and naming what is working and not working in your life. Only by examining and admitting what no longer serves us do we ever have the true capacity to deliberately change it. The following ritual is designed to give you a chance to reflect and voice aspects of your life that work as well as the things you wish to change. This exercise will not magically eliminate every single problem you are experiencing, you will need to do the necessary footwork to make that happen for yourself. It is a means for taking inventory so that you may decide what you wish to keep, what needs repairing and what you are ready to toss.
You will need:
A favorite writing implement.
a small bowl with 1 or 2 large ice cubes and an absorbent towel for melting water.
a sturdy note card/recipe card about 4″x6″ and colored markers.
Take a few moments to ground and center, think of the moon and imagine you are drawing its qualities down to you with each breath. Breathe in the Balance that Libra brings and welcome your connection to the Divine Presence with whatever name or form works best for you. When you are feeling filled with the energy and balance of La Bella Luna consider and then write out your answers to the questions on the worksheet. Look over your answers and distill the 3-5 words that have the most emotional charge for you. After rubbing your hands together, pick up the ice cube and hold it in one hand while tapping with the other on your karate chop point. Use the classic EFT set up and talk about the stuff that is getting in your way with your turn around being the choice you wish to focus on. NOTE: this ritual is more about taking inventory and exposing what is actually going on in your life right now, it is the start of a process. While it will likely help to shift your perspective and sense of what you are dealing with, it is your actual actions that will make the real difference in your life. I strongly recommend that you seek appropriate support and professional assistance if you are feeling that your life is unmanageable.
As the ice melts and you tap on your karate chop point you can state: “Even though… all this xyz is going on, etc. I choose to… Alternate speaking the set-up statements shifting tapping and holding the ice between your two hands, just keep going until your ice cube which acts as a symbol for the blocks you wish to shift and release has completely melted. Obviously put the towel under your hands to catch the water and prevent making a mess. It can be helpful to hold the intent that as this ice melts your obstacles are receiving the necessary energy and attention to start shifting and you are gaining traction to start moving forward.
After you have done a few rounds of the set-up and your ice has melted, assess how you are feeling. If you are feeling triggered by what you exposed, then tap through all your points a few times using a reminder phrase that sums up the issue you want to release. Then do another round or two through the points to anchor in your choice centered affirmation by tapping and stating “I choose…” for each point.
To complete this personal ceremony, in 1 or 2 sentences write your affirming choice on the note card. Using colored markers make it look as appealing as you can. Take this card and put it some where that you will be able to see this often to serve as a reminder. Each time you regard it, as you can, repeat the statement, inhaling the energy you are invoking and then exhaling your wish as a circle of intention around you.