Assessing Objects: Prayer Flags and Paper Crane (positive associations, so I will keep for now, but when the flags get really faded I will burn them eventually) Blue Vase & Perfume Bottle from Deceased Relatives (these evokes fond memories & are worth keeping) Pale Blue Candle Holder (I have a neutral association and am not really attached to it, so it will be a good thing to pass along by donating to Goodwill)
This time now between the waning full moon and new moon at 2:59PM on Saturday 4/18 is an ideal time to blow out the proverbial cobwebs in your world, and one of the best places to start with your actual living spaces.
There are a number of ways to break up negativity and energetic congestion in a living space (I’ll get into those details in part two of this blogpost), but as long as you have things in your space that serve as unpleasant reminders, it will not matter how much sage you burn, your mind will most likely be triggered by simply looking at the stuff.
IMHO, the first step to a truly effective house clearing and blessing is to take a brutally honest inventory of the objects in your home. Starting in the room you spend the most time in, stand or sit in the center of the room facing the primary entrance. Moving clockwise scan the entire room top to bottom and either taking mental notes or actually writing simply notice the things that “catch” when you see them.
Some things may affect you simply because they either need to be repaired or tidied. They are nagging on your mind because of their current state -kind of like hungry children-, but once restored to their proper condition your feelings will be fine again. Whereas some things might hold such an emotional charge that it will be worth considering donating them or giving them away as a gift to someone who doesn’t have the same kind of negative association with them that you do. For example there could be something like a hideous mint green lamp that your Aunt Hazel bought for you for as a wedding gift. Every time you look at it you are reminded of the feud between her and your Mom since the 4th of July Party in 1997 when she got drunk and tried to make a pass at your dad. The fact that you are now divorcing the spouse whom you received this lamp with adds yet another layer of discontent and on top of that if you are really honest with yourself, you’ve only kept it all these years out of a warped sense of familial loyalty because you never really liked it much at all.
Dead and dried out rosemary plant & narcissus bulbs contribute little positive energy to the room. Each time I look at them I am reminded that I keep forgetting to do something and this nags at me. Best to toss into the compost ASAP.
Obviously some objects may just be too essential, large or expensive to easily justify getting rid of them. One option is to consider selling and replacing things that you may need but you have no significant attachment to keeping that specific object. Another option is to hone in on what the object is triggering for you and then tap on it till you have neutralized your reactivity. By doing some rounds of tapping it is very likely that you can dissipate the emotional charge thus decreasing how your memory is triggered each time you look at the object in question. Chances are there is a specific event and the object is attached to a memory and subsequent emotional associations you have with it. Suppose for example you have a place where you usually sit when you speak on the phone. Then one day you received a phone call delivering some especially traumatic news, as you received the news you were looking at the framed picture on the wall in front of you and now every time you look at this picture you are taken back to that moment of shock and concern.
Go back and tap on the moments just before the “point of impact”. Move forward through the seconds when you were still calm. Then tap on the moment when things became difficult. Keep tapping until your feelings have settled down to a 0 or 1 in intensity. This process may be rather simple, but it may also be more complicated as one aspect may reveal more dynamics involved with the issue at hand.
PLEASE NOTE: tapping on specific events and doing memory work should be done only by experienced Tappers. It takes a fair amount of experience to navigate through a memory and release it entirely. Therefore unless you feel very confident that you know what you are doing with tapping, I strongly suggest that you seriously consider working with a skilled practitioner to address any event that was emotionally challenging.
Obviously depending on how large your living space is, this is probably going to take some time. I would suggest you start in the most frequently occupied area and address one space at a time, focusing on only one larger or a few smaller areas each month. Taking some time to tidy your space can be a good idea, but that is more about your comfort level with clutter and cleanliness than clearing negative energy. Getting rid of clutter and things that have been triggering unpleasant associations can be deeply freeing. For small appropriate objects it can be especially powerful to burn them in a fireplace or outdoors in a safe fire pit. Alternately small to medium sized non-toxic things can be buried and small biodegradable objects can even be cast off into a body of water. Please just be mindful if you do decide to release something in this more permanent way that it is suitable to destroy with the method you are using.
Since this is a process, I encourage you to do this first step for clearing your personal space. I will be posting Part 2 in time for you to energetically clear and then bless your space for the New Moon in Aries.