Affirmations are powerful tools for personal growth and manifestation. By thinking, visualizing, writing and speaking positively, you can rework older unfulfilling beliefs and transform them to more effective attitudes. However, often declaring positive statements will trigger contradictions and resistance that may be lingering beneath the surface of your conscious mind. As you work with affirmations, you may start to notice these denials.
This is part of the healing power of Affirmations, for Love & Health will draw out and purify that which is unlike itself. If you find your affirmation work is drawing out “that which is unlike itself:” Breathe! Remember this is an opportunity to move through the old patterns and develop new ones. EFT is an especially helpful tool for shifting your perceptions and feelings when you notice any dissonance or denial as you state an affirmation that does not resonate 100% true for you.
For example lets start with the classic EFT statement: “I deeply and completely love and accept myself.” Ask yourself on a scale of 0-10, with 0 being not at all and 10 being absolutely: how true is this statement? If you get anything less than a 10 there’s some work to do on this. One work around for this is change this to a choice statement instead of an absolute declaration. Usually the mind can get on board with the idea that at least some part of us able honestly say “I to choose to deeply and completely love and accept myself.” In addition to making a choice based statement, there is also tapping on the negative messages the affirmation brought up. On effective way to work with this is tap and talk with yourself. Express whatever comes to your mind and elaborate on your thoughts and feelings as you move through the points.
Karate Chop Point: “Even though, part of me doesn’t actually believe that I deserve to deeply and completely love and accept myself because I think I could be trying harder and I’m just not as good as I think I should be… SO I am going to take this time to recognize this part of me and still I am going to choose to love and accept myself anyway.” (3x adjust the words to work for you)
Top of Head: “I could be doing so much more.”
Inner Eyebrow: “I don’t know if I deserve that much love”
Side of Eye: “Part of me just can’t accept myself like this.”
Under Eye: “I feel so unworthy”
Under Nose: “I don’t feel like I am good enough to love myself completely.”
Under Lip: “Who do I think I am to love and accept myself”
Collarbones: “Maybe I feel SOME love and acceptance… but DEEPLY and COMPLETELY??? I don’t think so. Not yet at least.”
Under Arm: “Nope… I just don’t deserve such unconditional love and acceptance.”
Top the Head: “All this unworthiness” etc through each point.
Take a deep breath and assess how you are feeling. State “I deeply and completely love and accept myself” and notice if there is a change in your belief and/or feelings. If there are still “YA BUTs” getting triggered go for another round or two voicing the feelings and “airing your dirty laundry” as it were. When you have dialed down most of the intensity of the resistance to the affirmative statement, then you can do another round to anchor in the positive feelings.
Top of Head: “What if, I did deserve to deeply and completely love and accept myself?”
Inner Eyebrow: “What if I am good enough exactly as I am to deserve my love?”
Side of Eye: “What if I am actually doing the very best I can in this moment?”
Under Eye: “Maybe if would be okay to deeply and completely love and accept myself.”
Under Nose: “Maybe I actually deserve to deeply and completely love and accept myself.”
Under Lip: “I choose to deeply and completely love and accept myself.”
Collarbones: “I am willing to deeply and completely love and accept myself.”
Under Arm: “I deserve to deeply and completely love and accept myself.”
Top the Head: “I deeply and completely love and accept myself.” Deep Breath.
In addition to speaking affirmations and then tapping on what they trigger, you can also journal with affirmations and your reactions to them. Write your affirmation down repeat until you either feel it is true through your whole being or you start hearing the committee in your head start to contradict it. Write down your reaction. Then create a corresponding affirmation and notice if there is a response to that. Keep digging until you reach what seems to be the crux of the issue, and then use tapping and affirmations till you can say your affirmation with conviction. ONE thing, not all affirmations are going to work for you. Just because it sounds good, doesn’t mean it is the right one for you. Taking the time to find statements that are both viable and resonate deeply for you is the key to using them effectively. This is a technique you can do by yourself and yield some effective results, however if you find yourself getting stuck at any point along the way, or not fulling resolving those “Yes But…”s working with a Trained EFT Practitioner might be worth considering.